Not gonna do it

NaBloPoMo – Day 8 

Julian is not gonna do it. Eat, that is.

The boy has refused pretty much all food since he had the pukies last week. Once he recovered from the pukies, he’s had to contend with getting two more top teeth, bringing his total toothy count to 8 once this last pesky incisor comes through. He’s decided the best way to deal with the pain of teething is to stop eating. I can’t blame him for not wanting anything to come in contact with his mouth other than a soft boob or his fingers. He’s been gnawing on his hands like crazy. But, I do hope that he will consider eating again … someday.

Since he’s pretty much off the solids, his poop has returned to that mustardy new baby poop. And while I’m happy that it’s no longer odorous, it sure is messy.

Being that this is my second time around, I am not freaking out about his lack of food intake as much as I’m sure I would’ve have been if it was Ava. In fact, I recall plenty of occasions where a food strike on Ava’s part would send me into a tizzy. Why is she not eating? Is she going to be OK? Will she ever eat again? But having been through all of that once before and knowing the day will come when he will eat again (when he’s ready), just as Ava did, I can throw my anxiety to the curb and just enjoy all of the cuddly, nursing time we’re getting in these days. Still, you may see me do a little happy dance when that day arrives. 😉

13 thoughts on “Not gonna do it”

  1. I love the no oderous poop! Did I just say that??? I walk into there rooms in the morning and am bowled over with nastiness. My youngest does the hunger strik thing often. i will sit there and watch him pick up his food. . .look at it. . and then toss it on the floor as if to say. .nope not today! He’s teething too and has a cold. poor guy. don’t blame him for not wanting to eat.

  2. I’m so sorry your whole fam has been sick… so yucky! I think a lot of our mothering identity is tied into this feeling that we are nurturing our child’s body. Whether pregnant or nursing or preparing their meals, we want to feel like we are nourishing them and giving them the nutrients they need to thrive. That is why it is so frustrating when they won’t eat – your because of illness, mine because of stubborness. 🙂
    I hope all the “pukies” are gone and y’all are on your way to happy, full tummies!

  3. It is so nice to be more relaxed with the second, and on children. My sister is going through all that with her first now, who is 7 months old…she worries about everything. I tell her to relax, but I guess until you have BTDT, it is easier said than done. And you are right-he’ll eat when he is hungry. 🙂

  4. I remember my midwife saying to me, “if only they all could be second children” during my pregnancy with my second daughter.

    It’s just that much easier the second time around!

  5. We just got over the sickies too..and my baby boy went through it too..he also had the pukies..and then when it was over he didnt want to eat and also was super fussy because he’s got a jaw tooth in..I found giving him a piece of watermelon in one of those safe food eaters is the only thing he will touch. Its soft and cold on his gums and puts a little something on his belly. But my baby boy is 19 months old.

  6. My son is not too excited about eating these days either – and even though I’m a first-time mom – I’m not worrying. I guess its thanks to all of you experienced people who have convinced me that if they are hungry they will eat and if they don’t – don’t worry. He is healthy and growing and active and fun – all signs that he is doing fine despite the fact that he ate 2 spoonfuls of rice for dinner last night.

    In France they recommend Chammomia Vulgaris in granules for teething. We give our son 4 granules of 7CH – 3 to 4 times a day. I don’t know where you would pick that up in the states but it really does help. Good luck!

  7. Bones went through that too, when he was a little older. To preface, he didn’t eat meat until he was about 1&1/2. He got the icky pukies for about 3 days and wouldn’t eat a thing, except for pedialyte pops. He looked drawn and pale, but everyone kept telling me that he would eat when he wanted to. Well, about 24 hours later he sat with us for dinner and kept reaching for the fish that we were eating. I gave him a piece…and he wanted another… and another… So not only did he start eating, but that started his carnivorous adventures 😉

  8. I am so glad you wrote this post, so that now when I go through this I can come back reference this post and CHILL OUT! I am currently having anxiety because my little boy refuses any and all solids that are not rice cereal or puree fruits and veggies. He won’t eat a cracker or cheerio to save his life. I know he doesn’t need that stuff, I just worry about milestones and What to Expect says he SHOULD be able to self feed a cracker at this point. Seriously thought — I need to CHILL OUT. Sorry you were all sicky — hope you are feeling better.

  9. My kids would pretty much subsist on yogurt and cheese if I let them. I’m sure Julian is going to be fine, but I know what you mean about being a lot more laid back with the 2nd child. As long as he is getting some nutritious mama’s milk, he will be fine!

  10. Aww… I’m sorry to hear Julian is not feeling better. Teething is such a pain and when I look into my children’s eyes as a mother I want to just take that pain for myself. I’m sure you feel the same way.

    About the eating.. I know people probably think this is weird, but Lyndsee did not eat NO foods until she was 18 months old. She just down right refused any table foods and it was all mommy’s milk for 18 months. Every once in a while she would eat a teething biscuit but that was it. We were literally attached at the hip 24/7, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. Can you tell I want another baby sooo bad :(. Gosh they grow up so fast.

  11. I can totally relate. Amber (21 mo) old goes through days when she’d rather nurse and not let much else (other than her fingers) get near her mouth. She’s brining in some back teeth right now. Poor baby.

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